Communicating
adult-to-adult is the most reliable way to resolve issues or problems.
Sample Chapter 3 — Creating Intimacy:
Adult-To-Adult Communication
Intimacy, as discussed in this chapter, is not
about sex, but rather about how open and close you feel with
each other as a couple: how safe, trusting, loving, and respectful
you feel toward each other. If you aren't feeling that way
together, then for you intimacy is a worthy goal. In the next
chapter, we will pose more questions and offer exercises you
can do together to help guide you on your way to the goal
of intimacy.
Please remember that some of this work is hard
because the fear of being open and close can be strong and
can take many forms. For instance, you may feel discouraged
even before beginning the work, or you may feel cynical about
it. Feeling helpless and hopeless is in service of the learned
fear of being close, not of the natural desire to be close.
Whatever shows up for you when you contemplate working on
getting close to your partner is probably showing up because
it is being triggered by the prospect of intimacy. If you
are feeling encouraged and excited, that's great. However
you are feeling about the process allows you to see where
the work begins for you.
