In
the primary relationship, problems naturally show up. It is how the
partners deal with these issues or problems that determines the quality
or outcome of the relationship.
Sample Chapter 1 — Couples: The Primary
Relationship
If you were to ask people what they really wanted,
most of them would put a good relationship near the top of
the list. Very few people are hermits. We are built to want
and need a primary relationship. It's as if we're all halves
looking to be whole, to give and receive love — to be
part of a circle of energy that encloses us in safety, security,
and esteem. In this circle, our need is met for nurturing
in the form of affection, belonging, caring, and positive
regard from another. The union of a healthy primary relationship
offers an optimal climate for the physical and mental well-being
of children, and this shapes the emotional health of society
as well. These are some of the reasons that illustrate the
importance and value of developing a healthy relationship.
And you can be a healthy couple. Nothing
in the universe says you can't. The three indispensable ingredients
for developing a healthy relationship are:
